The Stories Project – Wayne Wilcox’s Story

Wayne Wilcox was a classmate of Rebecca “Becky” Wight’s. Both were members of the graduating class of 1977 at Seoul American High School. All words below are his unless specified otherwise.

TW: death, loss.

I went to high school with Becky in Korea at Seoul American High School, and we dated a few times. We also worked on the school newspaper staff together. What I remember most was a very fun-loving but subtle sense of humor. She made a joke about my hat collection in the school paper (I used to wear a different one almost every day). She wore these very big glasses (it was the 70s), and looked like a really cute owl! When we graduated, she went off to Virginia Tech, and I went to ODU. We might have swapped a letter or two, but I don’t believe I ever saw her again. She was a good friend in school; we had a lot of fun and went out, and then we moved on. I heard about her death in the mountains. I don’t remember how – could have been the newspaper, or the SAHS grapevine – and was very shocked and saddened. I always regretted that we never got together again, but that was life back before email and the internet; sometimes, we just lost contact with people. When you brought up her name, it just reminded me of the sadness I feel that she, along with many of my other friends, are gone, and that I need to live every day to its fullest. I think she would have wanted me to.

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21 thoughts on “The Stories Project – Wayne Wilcox’s Story

  1. That last bit resonates with me. I don’t know that I can speak for her, but I can’t imagine not wanting us to take something positive from her story if we can. If we can take anything positive away from her death, we should; it’s a good thing. I have some friends who I regret not getting back together with before they died – it sucks that it only hits us after they’re gone, how much we miss having the opportunity! Thanks for sharing your story.

  2. I read Mark Brady’s story (the one that has a picture of Becky) right before yours and you’re right, she did look like an owl with those glasses! Sweet memories. Thanks for sharing.

  3. Sorry to hear you’ve lost friends over the years. That has to be really shocking to hear someone you knew has been murdered. Best wishes to you.

  4. It’s been interesting to learn about who she and the other victims were as human beings. From the photo on Mark Brady’s story, she just looks like the type of person who would have a good sense of humor. Thanks for sharing!

  5. I’ve also lost several friends over the years, so I know what you mean about living each day to the fullest. I’m sure they would want us to.

    • It would def. be strange for me if 30+ years had passed from when I knew her. Like, why the interest now, after so much time has passed? I think I might wonder if they might have other motives…but at the same time it’s a cool thing someone’s doing.

      • Hi Colin and vtkel,

        Yes, I imagine it is initially very strange for those I contact, particularly for those who only knew Rebecca in high school. No disagreement there – I am completely aware that this is not the most conventional project in existence. For most people, the question of “Why now, after so much time has passed?” is answered quickly because I am very upfront about my youth. Being the age I am, there was no way for me to have started the projects any sooner than I did, and most people understand that.

        I apologize for the very untimely response. It took me until just now to get all the comments out of the queue!

        – Meg

  6. I like the shorter stories as much as the longer ones. It’s interesting to see how many lives she touched briefly (there’s probably more of those kinds of stories than anything.) After all it’s all of the stories combined that paint the clearest picture of who she was. (:

  7. My thoughts are with everyone who has been impacted by violence and loss. These people were more than the circumstances of their deaths and I’m glad they’re remembered as such.

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  9. Hello,

    My name is Christine Thomas and I have a similar story. Rebecca and I attended Tech together (she was always “Rebecca” to me, so I have some trouble picturing her as “Becky”!) I never had the chance to get to know her especially well, though I have fond memories of her and her infectious energy. She was a lot of fun to be around and I can easily see her as the kind of person you described.

    One of the things I think is neat about this project is how it doubles as a space for all of us to share memories and connect with others who remember.

    Regards,
    Christine

    • I agree with you, Chris, it’s hard to see her as “Becky” when we only ever knew her as “Rebecca.” I definitely remember that sense of humor, though. Thanks for pointing me here!

      • Hi Pam, were you also a friend of Rebecca’s? If you would like to share what you remember, I’d be happy to make a page for your story as well.

        Take care,
        Meg

  10. I don’t think I have a story, but I really respect what you’re doing. I was the mutual friend Chris Thomas referenced when she spoke to you. Rebecca was a hard worker and a good friend who was a lot of fun to be around. She was very honest, too; very upfront about her flaws and very willing to say, “I did something that hurt you and I’m sorry. What can I do to change so I don’t hurt you again?”

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